of wedding bells

a friend of mine recently had big problems with her guy, not to mention they were a very loving couple and marriage was kinda the expected end of their relationship. well, sometimes u never really know the guy that uve been lying in bed next to for years of co-inhibiting. he would always seem perfect, always seem trusting. but unexpected things happen andwe are only human.

then the point - do we make it or break it? some take months to decide, others only need a min. to try making the relationship work would require u giving ur 100%, but it also means that u can get hurt 100% again or that it jus wouldnt work out somehow. yet at times, that decision could make you and him come out stronger as a couple - through thick and thin remember? and there comes years of a blissful happy marriage.

so when do we decide that enough is enough? that that is all we're going to take and any more of that would jus break our strong believe in what love is. afterall, love is fragile.

ask me.. and my answer would be to try with all u can if the other party is willing to try. theres no use fighting a battle urself. theres no use trying for a prize u feel isnt worth the effort.

i still very much believe in happily ever afters. so, if ever - heres one of the vows that I think passes...

I could promise to hold you, and to cherish you. I could promise to be
there in sickness and in health like they say till death do us part - but i
wont. Those vows are for optimistic couples - the ones full of hope. And i
do not stand here on my wedding day optimistic or full of hope.
I am not optimistic, I am not hopeful - I am sure, I am steady and I know that I am a heart man. I take them apart, put them back together - I hold them in my hands. I am a heart man.
So this I am sure, you are my partner, my lover, my very best friend. My
heart. my heart - beats for you. And on this day, the day of my wedding, i
promise u this, i promise u to lay my heart in the palm of ur hands, i promise u - ME.

(Burke, Grey's Anatomy Season3)